Comments on: Endings

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 04:04:13 +0000

Hi Dani – Exactly, we can focus on the loss or we can focus on what we have to gain. It’s like focusing on solutions rather than problems – it puts your mind in a good place!

Hi Tess – I’m sorry to hear about your husband’s job. Closure is important. It helps you leave what has happened in the past.

Hi Chania Girl – Yeah, closure makes quite a bit of difference. It’s that moment that helps you say goodbye to what was and say hello to what will be.

Hi Laurie – Looking towards the future gives you a sense of hope when it feels like something hasn’t gone your way. It’s energizing.

Hi Jay – Haha, and even then you might be able to argue that death is also a beginning. Right, sometimes endings happen to us and sometimes we need to choose them. In fact, the ones that we choose are often very powerful. Thanks

Hi Christopher – Good point! Looking towards the future can make things a little easier.

By: Christopher

Christopher — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 01:40:58 +0000

This is a great post for another reason - for those of us who are worried about being laid off! Christopher’s last blog post.."Things Your Grandmother Knew" - Blog with Tips from the Past

By: Jay Wigley

Jay Wigley — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 21:01:15 +0000

Really well done. I could even imagine using this post to encourage someone to end something that needs ending. Usually the resistance to choosing to end anything is because the focus is on the loss, on the ending, rather than on what beginning something new could be, and all the uncertainty that comes with that. But I love the emphasis here on how beginnings must follow endings, unless you’re dead.

By: Laurie | Express Yourself to Success

Laurie | Express Yourself to Success — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 17:42:45 +0000

Wise words. Endings are hard when we view them as losing something instead of gaining experience. Be grateful for what was and happy with what is and excited with what will be.

Great post. Thanks!

By: Chania Girl

Chania Girl — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 13:32:40 +0000

First, let me say that I love T.S. Eliot, so I was completely tickled you began this piece with a quote by him. Second, I appreciated very much your advice to "close your ending." This has been very important to me in my own life, as I had a tendency when I was younger to not do so, and I went around with a lot of unresolved-ness. It didn't allow me to fully leave my past or be fully present in my present. As an adult, I have become more aware of my need to do this. Sometimes it means I very consciously initiate or engage in a very obvious kind of closure. But sometimes it is more subtle and private and might just mean I take a few moments of quiet-time to reflect on something and say goodbye. Thank you for sharing this today. Chania Girl’s last blog post..The Traveler: A Contemporary Folk Tale

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 18:54:14 +0000

My husband lost his job 6 weeks ago. I've forgotten about closure. We will close the door over the weekend with some kind of ritual. Right now we are focused on what we are moving toward. Thanks! Tess The Bold Life’s last blog post..A Bold Technique That Creates Miracles

By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:48:12 +0000

Wonderful post. Endings are usually beginnings and thinking about them that way helps to make it easier. For example, it certainly sucks when a relationship ends. However, it's a new beginning, a new chapter in your life, and I think that's always very exciting. Really enjoyed this. We all have endings in our lives and this is such a great post about them. Positively Present’s last blog post..hope springs internal