Comments on: What To Do When You Feel Stuck

By: Grace & Peace

Grace & Peace — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 04:15:03 +0000

I am so used to this low maintaince life, meaning I can surivive and live responsibly healthy and relaxing. The problem is I know I am stuck, indeed, really stuck. I have experienced on practicing the steps you mentioned. The biggest challenge is lack of motivation about life rather in material gratification or achievement. As I said before, I got used to it and changing it requires a lot of energy. It requires not only a lot of things but also disrupt the peace of my mind. If you are in that situation, I wonder what you will do? Thanks

Always like to stop by here =)

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 16:35:15 +0000

Hi Dazy – Absolutely right.

By: Dazy

Dazy — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 14:50:16 +0000

Its easier said than done.

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 00:29:20 +0000

Hi Felicity – I like how you said we have to think peacefully in order to find peace. Always, what we are looking for we find in ourselves first.

By: Felicity

Felicity — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 15:30:53 +0000

“Quicksand” is symbollically an ideal way to express the act of being stuck. Having a quicksand in the career path is also like meeting an impediment, such as hitting a brick wall. We stress so much on our personal goals by career means that problems appear to be conceitedly large. We feel like we’re in a mid-way crisis. We hope to be propitiated with the right choices and genuine efforts. To get out of that quicksand, we’ll need to think peacefully just to be requited with peace itself at the end.

I have definitely found all of the solutions to defeating the quicksand mess very useful and mutually comprehensive. Much more to read for enlightenment, Amanda. =)

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:18:32 +0000

Hi Sara – Thanks for the tweet! Taking a break to do something totally different than what you were working on is a great strategy for “stopping the sinking.” It helps you step back and regain perspective. Thanks for stopping by!

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 19:05:55 +0000

Amanda,

This is a very helpful post. I liked all your suggestions and your comparison to quicksand (I know this feeling well)! I tweeted the post, by the way!

When I feel stuck, I take a break first and do something totally unrelated to whatever is making feel stuck. Usually, this will help me get to your step 2. I see finding a solution as making a choice. Sometimes I can think of what I need to move forward, other times I allow myself to table things for a while…thank goodness this isn’t real quicksand:~)… because I’m not ready for the solution for whatever reason.

Great post Amanda:~)
.-= Sara´s last blog ..The Second Chance =-.

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 10:00:06 +0000

Hi Dr. Potter – In my experience that seems to be true also. We are often hard on ourselves. I do this another way also, by, asking what I would say to a friend who was in my situtation – that always makes things seem different. Thanks for your comment.

By: Dr. Beverly Potter

Dr. Beverly Potter — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 01:53:49 +0000

Another technique for getting unstuck is to talk to yourself like a good friend would. When stuck in worrywarting we tend to talk to ourselves like fuddy-duddies – in extreme ways that trigger FUD -> Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt, which generates anxiety which triggers more worrying. Friend, on the other hand, talk to us in supportive ways, show us that things are not extreme, help us think things through, distract us from the worry and so forth. So when you are stuck, stop and say to yourself, “What would a good friend say to me about this?” Then say it to yourself.

For more informaiton about worrywarting and how to break free from it, see: http://www.docpotter.com/ww-areyou.html

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 23:56:18 +0000

Hi Tess – I actually hadn’t heard this quote before either, and I thought it worked really well.

Hi Dani – I know what you mean. When I have a problem I want it solved – now! Sometimes I spend a little too much time thinking through a problem. You are right – stepping back is one of the best things you can do!

Hi Christopher – Both of those things sound great. And, thanks! I use Thesis.