Comments on: The Fear Of Rejection

By: Adam

Adam — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 10:47:40 +0000

I imagine fear of rejection and like social phobias are shame based fears? Shame can be such a horrible emotion. Embarrassment, humiliation, all different words for shame. Support systems like Hypnotherapy can possibly help with relaxation and developing a sense of security so as to start overcoming social anxiety and fear of rejection.

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 02:09:03 +0000

Hi Kim – Thanks for sharing this. That ideal you mention is certainly something to work towards. Knowing what you want and who you are is so important for your relationship with yourself and others.

By: Kim

Kim — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:54:51 +0000

I think this is such an important topic for me right now, as I’ve been dealing with what rejection means for me over the last little while. What I’ve found is that if you get involved in a relationship with someone when one or both of you don’t know what you want, one of you can end up feeling rejected. This is such a difficult minefield because unless we know ourselves well, this can happen often because we continue to put ourselves out there as we look for love. My advice is always to really feel grounded in yourself first, then offer to give yourself to others only when you feel really good about yourself. This is the ideal, and unfortunately there aren’t that many people walking around out there that know who they are, know what they want and are willing to risk what it takes to really love someone deeply.

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 01:53:24 +0000

Hi Patty – Yes, I think constant rejection (in either direction) is something to be examined. I like how you point out that it becomes a part of our story.

Hi Jay – Yeah, time helps a lot. And, I think taking that time for yourself is important.

Hi Ian – I think not taking rejection so personally is really important, but difficult to put into practice. If you can keep this in mind, though, it really helps.

Hi Dani – This is a very common fear. I know that I have often been in the grips of it myself. You can gain so much when you practice overcoming it.

By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:53:06 +0000

Great post, Amanda. I really like the tips about overcoming the fear of rejection. So many suffer from this fear and I think you've really identified the best ways to avoid being fearful. .-= Positively Present´s last blog ..working hard, playing hard =-.

By: Ian | Quantum Learning

Ian | Quantum Learning — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 12:49:15 +0000

Amanda. This used to be a big fear of mine – wanting to please everyone all the time. I moved past it by finding and enjoying connection to myself. Once I have that, connection with another person becomes a bonus and I’m not dependent on it all the time.

It also helped to not take it personally. After all I don’t like everyone or want to spend time with everyone – so why should everyone like me and want to be with me.
.-= Ian | Quantum Learning´s last blog ..How To Fully Enjoy Life =-.

By: Jay Schryer

Jay Schryer — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 01:20:58 +0000

This is really beautiful, and incredibly accurate. Having spent the last few months getting over being rejected, I could have used this advice long ago. However, I really think that it just takes time. Time to heal, time to recover, and time to get a grip on life and get back into the living of it. .-= Jay Schryer´s last blog ..Memories Best Left Forgotten =-.

By: Patty - Why Not Start Now?

Patty - Why Not Start Now? — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:59:13 +0000

Hi Amanda – Perceptive and right on the money, as always. Very important to think about what it means if we tend to feel rejected a lot. If that’s the story we’re living, then it’s possible that we unconsciously choose people who will reject us. Or we unconsciously push people away, and thus invite rejection. This is something I’ve had to look at in my own life.
.-= Patty – Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..Dark Magic and the $97 Book =-.