“Truth will out.” – Shakespeare
In order to change anything in our lives we have to start from where we are. Where we are now may be pleasant or unpleasant, but making changes requires that we take action based on the truth.
Being honest with yourself about where you are right now is a valuable skill. Temporary discomfort will give way to being on the road towards what you want, but you have to start from the truth.
We really dislike thinking negative things about ourselves. Many times we will come up with excuses and justifications and apologies for why we are where we are. But you don’t need to do any of these things. You need to simply tell yourself the truth.
For instance, lets say that you are in a relationship that you don’t like or that is clearly not going well. You can say to yourself, “this relationship is really terrible and I need to find a new one that is more fulfilling,” or you can try to tell yourself that you really do want to be in the relationship, that you just need to work on it a little harder. But really, you just don’t want to start over with a new relationship.
In the first situation, by being honest with yourself, you are admitting that this relationship has failed. And that’s OK. It may take some work to recover from this relationship and work on starting a new one, but you are putting yourself on the right path.
On the other hand, making up excuses about how the relationship isn’t that bad keeps you walking along with the status quo – which is an unfilling relationship. Maybe the thought of starting over bothers you or you are upset that this relationship has failed, but if you can’t be truthful about it, you keep yourself in a position of failure, instead of making positive changes to get what you want.
Saying to ourselves that we are somewhere we don’t want to be, means that along the way somewhere we have failed. This can be difficult to admit. But without the admission you are still failing, walking down the same road you have been on. Saying that you’ve failed is actually the beginning of success.
We don’t always have to shout the truth about ourselves and our lives from the rooftops, but we must always be truthful with ourselves. The truth is the starting point for all that we want in life, it’s the fertile soil of all possibility.
Hanging on to what we wish would happen instead of what actually is keeps us stagnant. Start from the truth and your actions will be powerful and grounded in reality, and therefore potent. If you want your life to be as you want it, be honest with yourself and connect your actions to that truth. Don’t be afraid of what actually is.
How can you become more honest with yourself? Share your thoughts and ideas in the comments!