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Get What You Want By Not Knowing What You Want (Let Go Of The Specifics)

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Not knowing what you want is a great place to be. But not in the general sense. I mean in the specific sense.

It’s still a good idea to have some kind of direction that you are walking in. A general sense of what you desire in life. But you don’t have to have all the specifics worked out, and, in fact, it may be better if you never work out all the specifics.

Because the truth is, I don’t know that you could imagine every detail of what you really wanted. And if you tried, you would be limiting yourself.

Think of something you have now that you love, but that at one point in your life you couldn’t imagine. Clearly, you didn’t know that you wanted it, but it worked out really great.

Specifics make us feel comfortable, because we feel like we have some control over getting the things that we want, but we also get attached to specifics, and too much attachment usually doesn’t lead to the results that we want.

The next time you find yourself tempted to get really specific about the things you want, hold off. Remember what you desire in the general sense, but leave out what color it is, at what time you will find it, and who will deliver it to you, because, honestly, you can never know those things. That’s what makes it exciting.

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  1. brian brian

    nice article! I agree

  2. Amanda Linehan Amanda Linehan

    Hi brian – Thanks!

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