Say not, ‘I have found the truth,’ but rather, ‘I have found a truth.’ – Kahlil Gibran
If you are like me, and reading this blog, you are probably looking for answers.
There seem to be so many questions, and not quite enough answers. It’s easy to start thinking that if you can find the perfect answer, some of the questions will start disappearing.
Seeking is a good thing. If you have an interest in self-improvement, you are always looking for new information, insights and practices that can further your personal development. But what happens when the answers you receive are never perfect? Would you pass up something that works for something that could be perfect?
When this happens, we can begin to seek for things that simply don’t exist, and bypass things that are good options for us right now. Looking for perfection creates an impossible circumstance. Theory and practice are never quite on the same page, but if we do our best to see that our beliefs work as best as they can in our lives we will do alright.
It is very tempting to think that if we can just find that “one”: religion, political belief system, diet/fitness program, career path, relationship etc. that we will then be whole. But, of course, then something would change in our lives and we would need a new answer. 😉
I find myself falling into this trap periodically, and I always feel better when I start to pull myself out of it. It’s funny, because when you are looking for that perfect answer you can actually feel foggier than if you are living bravely between what may be and what is. Letting go of that perfect answer is liberating.
Letting Go of the Perfect Answer
When an Answer No Longer Serves You, Change It – As our life circumstances change, the answers we need change also. In college, my fitness routine was to go to the gym 5 days a week to complete a cardio workout and lift weights. Now that I work full time and commute, that’s no longer the answer for me. My current answer is to walk and practice yoga. The answers change throughout your life.
Trial and Error – Maybe the only answer we have is to try things out and see what works. What works for you the most at this point in your life?
Find Substance In The Tension – When we can’t translate theory directly into practice, we simply have to work with what we are given. When you don’t have exactly what you need, you have to adjust to what there actually is. And, you may just come up with a great answer. For now, anyways. 🙂
The Best You Have Is Sometimes Just OK – Sometimes the best you can do is not that great, but if it’s all you’ve got, just go with it. Living with answers that are just satisfactory is a part of seeking. If you stick with it long enough you may find that this has encouraged your growth.
Not Everything Is Meant To Be Solved – We want to solve things. But sometimes we are given a problem that we can’t seem to find a rational answer for. In that case, seeing where the problem takes us is often the answer. We usually want to lead the problem, but sometimes, let the problem lead you.
Do you find yourself looking for “perfect answers”? Where has this lead you? Share your thoughts and ideas in the comments!