All of us have goals. Many of us have (mostly) clear goals that we’ve written down, with a plan that we think will get us there. But, we often distrust our own decision making, particularly when we come to a fork in the road and it’s not clear which way will lead us towards what we want. Will I chose the correct fork? Or will I make a terrible decision that will lead me far away from where I want to be?
Decision making doesn’t need to be this stressful. Putting aside your self doubt, you can learn to trust what you already have, and know that you already have everything you need.
When I have a goal that seems daunting and I’m not sure how to get there, I take it one step at a time, and I keep two things in mind:
- You can only act on things that you have already thought of. If you can’t think to do it, then you can’t take action.
- You can only act with the resources you already have.
When I ask myself what is the next step I need to take to reach this goal, I don’t worry about steps I can’t think of. I don’t worry about what I might be missing, because what I miss is of no use to me. I trust what I already have and I know that my next action must come from my thoughts.
Even if the thought is “I will ask advice from So-and-So” and they give me some helpful ideas on what action to take, the action (asking advice) came from my thoughts. Don’t worry about all the things you can’t think of – take action on what you can.
Likewise, I can’t act with resources that I don’t have. So, my thoughts, the relationships I have with other people, my skills and abilities, actual physical resources I might have (equipment, space, etc.) – these are all things that I can use to take action towards my goals. But, if I don’t have it now, then I can’t use it to take my next step.
What this means is no matter how big your goal is, your next step has to come from things you have around you right now. The next step of your goal is always in reach, which means that ultimately your goal is in reach. (Although, how much time it will take you don’t know.) The farther you go towards your goal, the broader your knowledge and resources will be (assuming you are learning along the way!), and you will be able to take more skilled actions as you go along.
Don’t worry about the things you don’t have, focus on what you do have and figure out a way to use those things in the best possible way. You already have what you need.
What do you do when your goals seem daunting? How do you keep putting one foot in front of the other? Feel free to share your ideas in the comments. 🙂