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Several years ago, in the Spring of 2007, I quit a job that I hated. And I did so before I had another job lined up.
What made me think about this was a post on my friend Christine’s blog entitled, Quitting your job without a new job lined up, and it made me think of my own story
At some point or another in your career, you may have the desire to quit your job, but think that you shouldn’t because you don’t have another job to go to. It’s certainly possible to do, and may, in fact, be the best move you can make, even if it feels like you are jumping off of a cliff. Read more...
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We often think, at any given point in our lives, that we are going somewhere. That there is some place we have to get to.
Maybe we want to reach a milestone in our careers or personal relationships. Or maybe we reach a certain age and feel that certain things need to be accomplished by then. Maybe we have a dream that we would like to see realized, something we’ve wanted for a long time. Something we are sure will make our lives better.
And, maybe, you actually reach that milestone or achievement, or you bring your dream to life. We feel like we’ve “made it.”
But, then, something funny happens. Something we didn’t expect. Read more...
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The amount of choice we have is overwhelming.
When it’s time to make a decision about which step to take next, we are often paralyzed with indecision. Not wanting to make the wrong choice, but not knowing which one is right, we stand at the fork in the road and don’t choose either direction.
There is an incredibly simple way to pick a direction and start walking.
Pick the easiest next step you can think of.
That’s right. The easiest. Not the hardest or the most sophisticated-seeming, but the easiest choice you can make that will take you forward. Read more...
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There are two ways to make decisions. One is with your eyes. The other is with your gut.
Gut feelings are stronger, quicker, and lead to better results than anything your eyes could ever tell you.
A Sensation In Your Body
A gut feeling is appropriately named because the sensation feels like it is actually coming from your gut. It isn’t a bodily sensation in the way that hunger or pain are bodily sensations. Gut feelings are not physical in origin. But the sensation you do feel seems to originate in your gut.
Also, a gut feeling might actually come from another place in your body (your heart, for instance), but the point is that this is a feeling that arises from your body, but is not of your body. Read more...
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When you think about making changes in your life, it’s a daunting thought. The steps you need to take seem endless, and most likely, you’re not even sure what steps you need to take.
But there are some simple things you can begin doing that can’t fail to make a difference in your life. You don’t need to create a lengthy plan of detailed action, just start doing the three things outlined below.
Accept
Acceptance gives you the power to deal with what is. This is not laziness and it’s not avoidance. It’s simply the willingness to see things as they really are, and to decide from that point what you will do next. From that point, your action (or non-action, as it may be) is inspired, and is transformative because it is rooted in reality. Read more...
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Probably everyone wants to improve their relationships in some way. INFPs are no different. But, INFPs often perceive unique relationship challenges based on their particular personality characteristics. If you can think differently about your relationships, you can change them for the better.
Realize that not everyone is scrutinizing you the way you are scrutinizing yourself.
INFPs are introspective. You know a lot about yourself. And, you probably are very aware of yourself when you are in a social situation. But realize that you are probably way more sensitive to what you are doing than other people around you are. Read more...
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Feeling stuck is never pleasant. Get moving again with the following 25 quotes.
1. Here is a rule to remember when anything tempts you to feel bitter: not, “This is a misfortune,” but “To bear this worthily is good fortune.” – Marcus Aurelius
2. You can be absolutely certain that when you feel you are being most unfairly tested, you are being prepared for great achievement. – Napoleon Hill
3. Security is mostly superstition. It does not exist in nature…Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold. – Helen Keller
4. Sorrow is a fruit. God does not allow it to grow on a branch that is too weak to bear it. – Victor Hugo Read more...
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Sometimes I look around and I wish that parts of my life weren’t there. At other times, I look around and I wish that I had things that I don’t yet have. And I wonder why I can’t just move everything around the way I want it instantly.
I think the response to this question – why we can’t have everything the way we want it when we want it – is that the things that surround you are there to serve a purpose. They are the things you need in order to take the next step forward. Read more...
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Meditation isn’t the only way to meditate. The only things you must have are silence and solitude. The other details are up to you.
Observe Your Pets
Watch your animals be animals. It’s easy to focus on their movements and behaviors. The other morning while I was drinking coffee I watched my cats looking at birds from the window. The movement of their ears and eyes, the posture of their bodies, their tails wagging was all very easy to focus on.
Sit Quietly
This is the easiest one. When you have a spare few minutes, simply sit down. You don’t really have to do anything. Just sit. You don’t have to police your thoughts, but if you can let them go when they arise, that would probably be good. Read more...
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It’s easy to become envious of others who seem to have something that you don’t.
But, remember -
they are on their journey and you are on your journey -
And they won’t look the same.
Everything around you right now is exactly what you need to take your next step, designed exclusively for you. Which means the same for the other person – everything they have around them is exclusively to get them to their next step.
Think of it less in terms of having or not having, and more in terms of being prepared in different ways.
Stop looking around at others, and start looking at what you have around you. Figure out that next step.
