INFPs often believe that they can think their way to clarity before they begin, but the keys to certainty lie elsewhere.
The first step to attracting certainty is simple: get messy.
I’ve previously discussed that doubt makes you pause, and then taking any action where you question your doubt will help you to move along and move out of it.
So, getting messy means getting into a process, having experiences, making mistakes, and making errors in judgment.
What we try to do with self-doubt is to think our way out of it. We have these questions, and we’re spinning them around in our mind. We think that what we’re going to do is to think our way through these things, and then we’re going to reach certainty. Once we’re there we won’t be doubting ourselves anymore, and then we can start. But actually, we’ve got to jump in and roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty.
In a previous post, I mentioned that Introverted Feeling (the dominant cognitive function for INFPs) has a downside which is that it can make our doubt (or any emotion) seem really, really large.
But one of the upsides of Introverted Feeling is actually the conviction that you can have in your feelings. It is a certainty of feeling. It can be very, very strong for INFPs.
However, this does require a process. It really does take a lot of trial and error for us to get there. And that’s why I say the very first step towards attracting certainty is being willing to get messy.
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Amanda Linehan is the author of Productivity For INFPs. She is an independent author, coach, and INFP, who has published six full-length books and has been read in 113 countries. Amanda was a speaker at the INF Summit in February 2020. Learn more about her Productivity For INFPs Online Course on the course page.
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