A few weeks ago I wrote a post about how to see another person for what they are and not for what you want them to be, called Use Your Eyes; Learn to See. Often, it’s not very long after we’ve met someone that we begin to spin a story in our minds about who and what they are. There was some good discussion in the comments section about how difficult this really is to do.
There were also some questions about exactly how you might do this. For instance, Tom Maurer, from Simple and Spiritual, left this comment:
“Wow I love this post. This is so true but so incredibly hard to do. Because we are often spending more time judging whether a person provides any value to us rather than appreciating them for who they are as they are. I’d love to see if anyone has any practical tips.”
I thought that Tom’s question about “practical tips” was an important one. So the questions are:
- What are some practical tips for seeing people for who they actually are?
- How can you let another person tell their story first without trying to tell it for them?
Leave your ideas and tips in the comments section and I’ll compile them in another post. I’ll also add a few things that I’ve been thinking about.