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How To Create Self Confidence

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Everyone wants to be confident. Self confidence helps us gain our footing in the external world, allows us to get the things we want in our careers, in our relationships, in our social life. In short, self confidence helps us in our interactions with other people, even though it pertains to the way we feel about ourselves.

If you want to create the spark of self confidence, ask yourself this question:

Do I Like Myself?

When the answer to this question is “yes,” self confidence comes easy. When you like yourself, you like the particular way that you interact with the world around you. Your perspective of the world is unique to you, and because of this, all of your interactions in the world are unique to you.

So when you like yourself, you like the unique way you act out in the world with other people. And there’s your confidence.

If the answer to the above question is “I don’t know,” “Maybe,” or even “No,” you know what you need to do. Go make friends with yourself.

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  • Jarrod - Cultivating Heroes August 25, 2010, 6:29 pm

    Once you like yourself I think there is another critical component to consider and that is one of how much value you put on other peoples opinions and comparisons.

    If you like yourself but feel you are lesser than another then you will shoot yourself in the foot. Comparisons of others also lead to pain to yourself.

    You must be free from the impact of what others say or think, truly confident in the irrefutable truth of your own inner perfection.

  • Leigh-ann August 26, 2010, 12:06 am

    Thank you for your wise words, I love your insights and look forward to your posts. Have a wonderful day xo

  • Amanda Linehan August 26, 2010, 9:45 pm

    Hi Jarrod – I really like that last sentence. šŸ™‚ When I wrote this I was thinking that really liking yourself would lead you to compare less, but you’re right if you are always comparing yourself to someone who seems better you are not going to be very confident.

  • Amanda Linehan August 26, 2010, 9:47 pm

    Hi Leigh-ann – Thanks for the compliment and I’m glad you are enjoying the blog!

  • ashley September 20, 2011, 3:55 pm

    i have tryed it all. and nothing ever works out for me i just resently relized i dont no who i am anymore i have never liked myself and the feeling of not being happy is the worst feeling when you have a broken heart or a very stessful situation going on so wht should i do? i try being around friends but i just feel so depressed and want to be held by the one i feel for.. and when im with friends i feel like i need to become more like them because their better then me or i want to be liked like they are ..

  • Amanda Linehan September 28, 2011, 7:09 pm

    Hi Ashley – When the problem seems too big to overcome you have to start small. Think of one thing that’s unique about you that you like, just one thing. Expand your list from there šŸ™‚

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