I am an INFP. That’s Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator. Below are five reasons why it’s great to be INFP. These aren’t based on any kind of formal analysis. They are simply based on my life experience as an INFP.
If you are an INFP, you may often feel as if you are swimming against the current, as if you tend to see the world differently than many other people. And maybe you’ve also wished that you could just “be like everyone else.” Take some time to appreciate your own unique qualities that you possess. And remember what they say (whoever “they” are): it takes all kinds. 🙂
5 Great Qualities of the INFP
Your Vivid Imagination – The ability (and the desire) to sit for long periods of time and imagine things is a favorite INFP pastime. This might make you a good storyteller. Or, you may have a vision of the world, or of your community, or of some aspect of life that you think it is worthy of working towards. Just because you see it in your mind doesn’t mean it will automatically come to pass one day, but having a vision of what could be makes you a powerful force if you choose to act upon it. Just remember, what’s in your mind and what actually is will never quite match, but you can keep working on getting them as close as possible.
Your Depth of Feeling – You feel things a little more intensely than other people. This can be a painful, as events and circumstances that other people wouldn’t notice, the INFP is bothered by. But it can also be a wonderful thing, as the little moments of joy in life don’t pass unnoticed. You may think of yourself as being too sensitive, but, really, you are acutely aware and perceptive of the way it feels to Live, and this makes your experience of life very rich.
Your Relationships – Your desire for connection with other people is very strong. The connections you build have depth to them. You are a very good “bonder.” You are also an excellent friend to have, and despite your (probably) quiet demeanor, many people find it very pleasant to be around you. You make them feel peaceful, but they are not sure why.
Your Perception of the World – You are an observer. A very acute observer. And, things that other people miss, you tend to see. This knowledge of Life at a very subtle level makes you aware of the nuances of living. You can see the experience of life at it’s depths. Being an “observer” is often considered to be not as important as being a “doer,” but your observations are one of your very best gifts. Make sure you share them with others in some way.
Your Dedication to What You Love – You don’t like to do things that you don’t love. This can be painful when you feel like you have to. But, it can also keep you searching when others would have given up. And when you do find something you love, you put your soul into it. There is nothing for you that doesn’t involve love. So keep looking.
Any INFPs around? Agree or disagree? Have something to add? Other types – what are the best qualities of your own type? Please share your thoughts and ideas in the comments. 🙂
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I’m an INFP, too! And yes, it rocks. Do you know who else is an INFP? Calvin, as in Calvin and Hobbes…my personal hero!
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I think each of the qualities has positive and negative aspects for them. For example, “You are also an excellent friend to have” which is a positive until you start dating and you’re stuck in friend status.
I think the dedication to what you love sustains INFPs and keeps us stable in the day-to-day.
Now if we could only figure out what we love…
Me too :))) i think the blogosphere is a wonderful outlet for us INFP’s. Our sensitive/perceptive observations are not lost altogether in our own imaginations when we can write about them and share with others who may appreciate.
The one thing that sticks out to me the most is the vivid imagination. I see that as one of my great strengths. It also can be a weakness because sometimes you have to see things for what they are and not what they could be.
For example, when your hiring someone for a job, are you hiring them for what they can do or what they could do. I’ve learned the hard way on that one…a few times.
Thanks for focusing on the positives…
Hi Amanda – I used to think I was an ENFP, but now I’m not so sure about the “E.” I don’t know, Jung said we all go towards the opposite as we get older and move toward wholeness. So maybe that’s it. Lately I feel more like an INFJ, actually. Whatever I am, I’m glad you wrote this. Much of what you say applies to all NF’s, and as far as I’m concerned, we need more of that kind of energy in the world right now!
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Amanda,
Well…I’m an INFP too!! In fact, it had been a long time since I’d taken the MB test, and just did it again in November for a training program I was in. I agree with all the points you’ve shared – especially, most strongly for me – the idea of relationships and perception of the world.
On a side note, in our training session, there were 7 people, and one other person was also an INFP – and we really connected, at a deeper level. I’m sure it’s because of our similarities.
It’s good to be here today…very good…
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Hi Jay – I think I did know that…about Calvin being an INFP. Pretty cool. 🙂
Hi Corin – Thanks for your comment. 🙂 I think you are definitely right – there are positive/negative sides to all of these things. In fact, I think I’ll do another post, maybe title “5 Things INFPs Should Watch Out For” or something like that. By the way, I found your INFP Blog probably about a week ago. I loved seeing an entire blog dedicated to INFPs!
Hi Trish – Thanks for your comment! Yes, the internet is a great place to be an INFP. As you point out, it’s an excellent place to share!
Hi Nick – I think focusing on the positives is well needed. 🙂 You mentioned something similar to what Corin mentioned above – the idea that there are always positives and negatives to each quality. And your example illustrated that pretty well. Thanks for your comment. 🙂
Hi Patty – I do think these items apply pretty well to all NFs – although maybe the imagination one tends a bit more towards the introverts. Of course, no personality type is a cage – we are always free to break out and do things that we never thought we would!
Hi Lance – Very interesting to know…I’ve had all these INFPs around me and I had no idea. 😉 Birds of a feather, right?
Hi Amanda, I’ve recently discovered that I’m an INFP and it was quite surreal reading about all the things that match my personality and finding out that there are others like that too.
Your words are extremely inspiring and I can go along with all five reasons, think it shows that we are a special bunch of people. We should embrace these qualities. Having perception about things that matter in the world is extremely important and there’s not a lot of people who have that.
After reading this, I looked at some of your other blog posts. I’ve been going through a tough time in the last few weeks and things are at a bit of a cross roads. But like with this article, you inspired me and made me feel better. Thank you for that and it’s only right that you should know your post has had that effect. I shall read any future posts with interest 🙂
Enjoy your blog and especially this one. I’m another fellow INFP – do we just have radar that leads us to other INFPs who blog? 🙂 I’ve taken the formal test 3 times and each time come out as INFP, although the difference on the T/F continuum for me is only about 5%-ish on the F side.(That has its own advantages and disadvantages, but more advantages at work, being very “T-ish” prone – great for technical stuff.) I agree with you and just about everyone here. I have seen a blog (that now appears to be defunct) called “Surviving INFP.” I must say, there are days when I feel that way, too! Being so different and so sensitive can be a real struggle in the real world; on the other hand, I love the imagination and different nuances to seeing things – this really enriches my life, my creativity, and enables me to be of help at times to other creatures, humans and others. I don’t think I’d trade it. The biggest advantage I see to being an introvert in general and an INFP in particular is that I’m rarely bored and not dependent on others to give me energy or stimulation. Of course, that doesn’t apply to my 3 cats, who really enrich my life. I can’t help but feel that cats are really “introvert-friendly” pets: They’re relatively quiet (note the “relatively” – my Oliver can holler with the best of them, especially when the food bowl is empty!) and yet very companionable beasts. I also admire their independence. Dog lovers, I love dogs, too! Dogs can be great for INFPs and introverts in general because dogs bring us out of ourselves by needing to be out. I’ve found that admiring other people’s dogs can be a great way to connect with fellow animal lovers and it’s enabled me to get to know my neighbors in my condo community.
Keep up the great work with this blog!
Hi Martin – Thanks for your comment. 🙂 I think a lot of INFPs have the kind of experience you describe when they first find out they are INFP. It’s nice to know that there are others like you 🙂 I’m glad the articles on this website have been inspiring. Thanks for telling me, and I hope whatever crossroads you are at gets a little easier with time. 🙂
Hi Joana – Thanks for your comment! Interesting that you mention cats as very “introvert friendly” pets. I have 2. 🙂 Event though they don’t have the reputation for it, cats are very affectionate companions and can be quite social (and loud as you mentioned!). But not in the same way that a dog is. Cats need time to themselves and freedom to go about as they please. I think I found that if you give them that space they are very happy to then also be social and affectionate. 🙂
Hello Amanda:
I’ve taken the MBTI a few days ago via the career center on campus, and was rated as an INFP. This was the third time in my life I’ve taken it officially, though I have also taken the Keirsey one and the results were similar. Sometimes the results meander between P and J, but the P has been constant the last several times.
This is great that you’ve posted this up today; I’ve found this via a Google Search while exploring more on INFP’s. I’ve visited one of the Facebook groups and explored the discussion board, interesting in many ways.
For the last few years, I’ve gone on a bit of a self-exploration, with paths leading me back to what INFP’s have been, for the most part, discourage, for one reason or another, to do: follow your bliss. More to the point, it’s searching inside yourself and embrace who you are. I’ve learned that you need to love you first before you can give to others, but that sort of thinking took me a long time to understand.
Too often, people tend to focus too much on our perceived weaknesses rather than their strengths, and I’m certainly one of those that have. I’ve also had the tendency to not give myself enough credit for what I have accomplished, then wallow big time when things don’t work out, or I backed out. And now that I’m becoming more aware of my inner power, I’m learning to embrace it.
So it was that I think your posting is just another layer, and a really empowering and positive layer at that. On top of the other things I’ve learned, perhaps returning to your posting every now and then will continue to remind me of the virtues of the beauty of what life should be. Most of all, it’s okay to be who you are, but don’t give the power of your growth to others.
Thanks again for the inspiration; I will subscribe to your blog, looking forward to your future postings.
Hi Velanche – I’m glad you’ve found your way to this post and enjoyed it! “Most of all, it’s okay to be who you are, but don’t give the power of your growth to others.” I think this sentence in your comment really captures the spirit of this post. Too many times people (of all types) are too focused on what they lack, rather than what they have. Recognizing your strengths, whatever they are, really is true power – the power to contribute to the world in your own unique way. INFPs, especially, need a reminder of this every once in a while. Keep up with your self-exploration! And, thanks for subscribing. 🙂 Also, I’d be curious to know the link to the INFP facebook group you visited. You can leave another comment or use the comment form if you still have it.
Hey thanks for the reply, Amanda; will surely keep in tune with your posts, and glad that you’ve found my comments to be of value.
The Facebook group is simply called INFP, which is at:
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2221426348
Anyone who decides to do a search for the group, be aware that there are two groups called INFP; choose the one that’s linked to the “common interest” area for the correct one that I’m referring to.
Hope this helps; have a good Sunday!
Wonderful! Thanks for the link! 🙂
Learning that I was an INFP several years ago explained many of the things I had trouble understanding about how I viewed the world. It always seemed to run counter to how the world wants to be viewed.
I don’t think there has been a more critical time for people to look deeply into issues. I think we need to share these views with as many people as possible. As we become more divided along philosophical and political lines as a society, we are quickly losing any sense of community. We can make a real difference as you have here with your gifted writing.
Namaste,
Roger
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Hi Roger – I know exactly what you mean when you describe learning that you were an INFP. A lot of things begin to make sense. I also feel that being able to see things a little differently than others is a valuable trait and will continue to be so, especially, in the coming years. Thanks. 🙂
Hi Amanda
Thanks for a great post – I’m an INFP too and completely identify with all the traits that you identify, including imagination (one of my blogs is the Social Imagination Lab) and observation. I remember when I took the test and it said that INFPs were healers – I think that is an important role that we can play using our strengths and who we are.
Happy 2010!
Hi Olivia – Glad you decided to comment. I’ll definitely have to check out your Social Imagination Lab. Imagination is one of my favorite topics. Maybe I should write more about it here. 😉
So many things to write about! I was also interested in your comment about relationships with other people – ‘you make them feel peaceful, but they don’t know why’. An ex said this to me – that he felt peaceful when he was with me. I don’t think that we necessarily know why either! Be interesting to dig more into this.
Hi Olivia – I was going to answer your comment a couple days ago, but then I decided to think a little more about what I had originally written. My first thought was that INFPs tend to be very focused (good listening skills, etc.) on other people that we are engaging with, and this makes people feel peaceful. But then I thought, maybe it has to do with the INFP herself. By that I mean, that the INFP is peaceful within himself and so brings that peace to other people that he is interacting with. Thanks for the thought – provoking comment. 🙂
Hi Amanda – I wish I could feel that I as an INFP brings peace to others because I’m peaceful within myself; while that is true for me sometimes, it isn’t true for me often enough because I still struggle with having to adapt to our more extraverted and demanding work and social society. I remember a blog some years ago called “Surviving INFP” and so often I have felt the same way! Perhaps, though, some of that conflict I feel within myself is because I’m something of a borderline INFP – I’m only about 5% over into “Feeler” territory, so I have a lot of “Thinker” characteristics, too. Still, I’m not an INTP; it does help to read both, though, especially where work things are concerned.
Hi Joana – I understand what you mean. I think probably all INFPs struggle with “keeping up.” And when you feel rushed and overwhelmed you definitely don’t feel peaceful. I guess that’s the INFP paradox, the potential to spread that peace is there, but getting to that place takes some work!
Thanks for your thoughts. I hope that it is that we are peaceful within ourselves. Of course, we all have that capacity, but maybe it is a particular gift to help to translate that inner space into a space for others.
Just to follow up on that point, that idea of creating the space, the conditions for ourselves and our work to emerge is something that I am becoming increasingly aware of – I wrote a blog post on it here – http://thefiver.wordpress.com/2010/01/02/creating-the-space-for-your-work-to-come-into-being/
And being peaceful, at peace is an important part of that space.
Intriguing!
The “observer” thing had me thrown for a moment because among my friends I’m known as being UNobservant. Compared to them I pay scant attention to the “real world.” But in terms of perspective I do see things they don’t see. So I guess I can go with that.
The most pronounced aspect my life has been, “You make them feel peaceful, but they are not sure why.” People become attached to my vibe and want it to themselves. It’s very strange, really, because my closest people insist (in both overt and covert ways) on having some of my time to themselves. Do any of you other INFPs have that issue?
Hi Sue – I understand what you mean. The difference between being “observant” and “the observer” are definitely different. My friends and family (especially when I was younger) would have thought of me as being “unobservant” also. I might not have been paying much attention to the details of the real world, but I was certainly not “unobservant.” Also, I’m seeing a lot of comments focusing on the “peaceful” thing, which I find interesting. Maybe that’s a follow up blog post. 🙂
This is a great post!!! I wanted to tell you that the OBSERVER can have such a positive influence on their friends, because it’s nice to be noticed for doing good or figuring something out about a person….people feel like if you noticed then you care…..They’re usually right!
Hi Eden – Yes, absolutely. The observer often notices things that others don’t and those observations can do all sorts of good!
I enjoyed reading this. It’s great to know your value and strengths. In this world(usa to be exact) INFP strengths are rarely valued. At least in my experiences, especially the work place. I used to think of INFP’s as being similar to super heroes who didn’t have any special powers. Now I know we do have special powers.
i’m an infp too, i just took the test ytd, i’ve always felt that i was different all my life, n nowi’ve discovered that im growing but dunno how, i just feel it, haha quite accurate, being an infp sounds really, really cool, n ya i have intense feelings which made me understand larger problems even though the ones i experienced r small n it helps in my recent acting in a drama entitled, “what’s the verdict?”
Hi Amanda,
All of my life, I have been a very observant and a very deep thinker. My mother use to tell me that I don’t always have to “know why,” but I’d tell her, in all sincerety, I do have to know why. I’m a dreamer, both in my sleep and in my free time. I always feel as if I am restlessly searching for something, and I embrace change that is interesting. I have always sought God, to know Him more, and I’m finding that to really know him, I have to first really know myself, which I’m not sure I do. Perhaps that’s the root of my restless searching. Lately, I’ve been looking back at myself and trying to find some answers to what makes me who I am and why I’ve done some of the things I’ve done. I enjoy helping others, although I’m not one to be in the middle of a crowd. I dream of working for myself, doing something that I will enjoy while helping others, too, and I’m giving a lot of thought to that. I just turned 50 years old, and I am praying for the rest of my journey to be a fulfilling one. Thank you for the wonderful information on your website!
Hi Debbie – Glad you enjoyed this article and thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Hi Liz – I’m glad you are enjoying the blog. I find that a good quote can really change how I feel in any given moment.
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Hello,
I just stumbled across your blog…and I wanted to thank you. You write very well, and the whole aura of it is warmly encouraging, which is nice because most of the time I feel I would be much more functional if I were not an INFP. Also, your quotes especially resonated with me. Interestingly, though perhaps expectantly, many of them are already quotes I very much love.
Thank you again,
Liz
It can be great, yeah, but in an increasingly tech-driven world, I don’t know that the combination of depth of feeling, a vivid imagination, and prominent, unique sense of perception are such great assets. Right now I would gladly trade all of it to be an INTJ with a better chance of having a career/stability/home/etc.
Hi Tara – Yeah, I understand. I have had the same thoughts myself at times. But, I think a turning point for me was realizing that I wasn’t going to be able to change myself, so I decided instead to appreciate what I had, and make little adjustments so as to live in the world around me.
Thank you, this list is great. INFP’s are the best!
Hi Stephen – You’re welcome. 🙂
I’ve taken several different tests several times and always got the same answer: I’m an INFP, and everything you say is completely true about me. I feel different, I do observe the world very well and I feel more deeply and have a vivid imagination and all the other stuff you wrote. It’s very hard to be me sometimes, but it’s also very intense and I would never want to be less passionate because then I would be boring. Great article!
Hi Rachel – Glad you enjoyed the article. Always great to hear from other INFPs!
What a fantastic blog. Thank you!!!!
Hi Yiannis – Thanks, and you’re welcome. 🙂
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Hi Amanda, I really enjoyed this and will be reading more from your blog. We INFPs often need to have our strengths and uniqueness pointed out in a positive light! Your use of the word “observer” thew me a little. I am very perceptive but would not call it being an observer. My daughter is what I call observative. She takes notice of what she sees, hears, etc. She is a sensor rather than a perceiver. Still, I get what you are saying. We INFPs spend much time observing “the big picture”!
Hi Debby – glad you liked the article. I think you’re right about INFPs needing more ways to look at our qualities in a positive light. Thanks!
Thank you for this, how true everything that you have mentioned! now, I don’t feel so alone about feeling the odd one out from the world and feeling like no one understands me! Now I know why I feel and see things differently from my peers…
Hi Lena – I know what you mean about feeling like the odd one out! Glad you liked the post! This was one of my favorite one’s to write. 🙂
Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts with the world. They made me happy.
Hi S – Wonderful!
I am a scientist. Your blog describes me perfectly. I feel so alone. But its ok. Because I bring good to the world.
Hi Randy – Thanks for your comment. 🙂
Really nice piece, Amanda ! It’s great to stumble upon something that makes you feel connected. This describes me almost 100% ! I’m just not sure if I’m a great great bonder, it’s all or nothing concerning that issue. If it happens it just does, when I feel I’m forcing the slightest thing, nothing will happen. And when it happens they indeed feel peaceful.
Hi Bram – Wonderful! Yes, it does feel good to connect! I hear what you are saying about the all or nothing bonding. I wonder if that’s also an INFP thing. 🙂
Very nice piece. I feel like I know you (and vice versa) better than anyone could imagin being a fellow infpe. Thanks for sharing this article. I know I’ll continue to Love, dream, care, and question things more than the average bear but feel wonderful knowing I’m not as alone as I often feel. I literally love you : )
Hi Tyler – INFP love! Awesome! Glad you liked the article and glad to hear you will keep on INFPing. 🙂
Hey ! my english is so bad , i am Peruvian , i using google translate , 🙂 i love your article , i feel the same , i am so stranger , but i am proud for this , is wear for the other persons , but is my way ~ my life , and i´m happy find you ,find people understand 🙂 , ah espero que se haya entendido algo ,Thanks a lot .
Hi Libia – Thanks. 🙂 It’s always nice to connect with other people who feel the same way.
This is really insightful and well said:
“you are acutely aware and perceptive of the way it feels to Live, and this makes your experience of life very rich.”
It will likely stick with me. I’m somewhere between INFP and INTP. Have you spent much time with other INFPs? I like them, but they also drive me crazy. INFPs seem to bring out the INTP in me, and INTPs seem to bring out the INFP in me. Have you experienced this?
Hi Daylan – Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I love hearing from fellow INFPs. Umm, it’s funny, I don’t always know the types for the people I’m spending time with. I guess not everyone is a meyers briggs nerd like I am. 🙂 So, I’m not sure that I’ve really experienced that. But that is kind of interesting what you described. Feeling like you go back and forth, somewhat.
It’s from 2009, but thank you.
I felt better reading this.
I agree with you, especially with the imagination point. I think stories/dramas can be considered a part of imagination, cuz I get into them very quickly and don’t feel the time passing.
Hi Sakubo – Yeah, a little old, but still totally relevant (I think). 🙂
Hi Salma – Totally agree. 🙂
Hi, Amanda, I stumbled across your articles about INFPs and they were exactly what I needed to read. I’m an INFP and I am often being hard on myself in the ways you described, and I tend to forget that I am special to everyone else because I am different from them. Thanks for reminding me that it’s just the way a person with my temp feels. It’s great to connect with fellow INFPs and see that you’re not the only one! ? Thanks for writing these great articles!
Hi Eve – Yes, it is great to connect with other INFPs! Thanks for reading and glad you enjoyed the articles.
Im also an INFP, i love our uniqueness, and just want you to know that no one could’ve described INFP’s better.
Hi Margaret – Thanks!
Hi Amanda, thanks for the article, I just discovered i’m INFP and all the points you describes are suited to me.
its really good to see there are people in the world that are like me. its feeling like …., (sorry I can’t explain it in words). Hope you feel it !!
Hi bcube – I feel it! 🙂
Your words are very sweet,Amanda!
However,the hard stuff in item 4 is that we perceive so many wonderful things and have such a difficult job to express them : (
Thanks for the article!
Hi Leonardo – Glad you liked it!
Its nice to see you writing about INFPs with so much positivity. Some people tend to perceive our sensitivity and intensity of our emotions as a weakness but I believe its our greatest strength!
Hi DaniRae – Agreed!
Don’t know that “your relationships” is always an INFP strength. Being an INFP for me has many traps with regards to relationships… I over-idealize people, don’t make enough $$ to treat people, can be an empath, can have a hard time getting out of bad relationships, and don’t like being bossed around… all INFP drawbacks.
Hi Nathan – Yeah, there are drawbacks too.
I recently discover that I’m INFP, and looking some information about it, I discover this amazing blog! It had been so hard for me struggle these whole years with it, for moments I just thought like nobody could understand the way I feel and see things, but I’m learning and trying to deal with… hopefully someday this solitude-nobodyunderstand me feeling gone disappear finally… thanks again for this helpful blog!!! (And sorry for my English, I’m from south America heehee)